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Feeling Lost After a Spiritual Awakening? What To Do Next.

Spiritual awakening and spirituality in general are often seen through a rose-tinted lens: whether it’s the idea that all spiritual people are zen and peaceful at all times, or that spiritual awakening is always pleasant and easy.

In reality, spiritual awakening often beckons major life changes, everything you took for granted is flipped on its head. Going through a spiritual awakening can often leave you feeling more lost, confused and disconnected than before.

This is because we become more aware of the state of loss, confusions and disconnection we were in before. Spiritual practice amplifies the light but also amplifies the shadows, and so care is required.

In this post I want to give you some practical advice on how to reintegrate into society and feel grounded after a spiritual awakening. There isn’t one way to go about this of course, but this is what has worked for me.

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What Is the ‘Spiritual Ego’?

The ego is not something to be ashamed by but aware of. We all have an ego: the aspect of ourselves that deals with self-image, self-esteem and self-importance. The ego deals with the ‘self’, all of the things we put after the statement ‘I am’.

It’s common to see the ego talked about with negative connotations, and we can see from the definition about why this might be. We can over-identify with the ego and become arrogant, unaware and selfish.

However there is another side to the ego that isn’t talked about as much. The ego is an essential part of human life, it develops over the course of our childhood (and further into adulthood) as we figure out our place in the world.

The ego allows us to differentiate between ourselves and others – this can be a positive thing. Knowing who and what we are is how we navigate everyday life. Imagine not knowing what your name was, your nationality, your age, your values and morals. It would be impossible to get through the day.

With that being said, I want to explore the concept of the ‘spiritual ego’. This might sound like a contradiction in terms, and on some level it is, but it is where the ego co-opts our spiritual awareness, and uses it as just another way to put ourselves above others.

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Shadow Work & The ‘Healing Trap’

The concept of shadow work has become more widely known over the last few years – a term originally coined and popularized by psychiatrist Carl Jung. It is something I have incorporated into my work and find extremely useful.

At it’s core, shadow work is a process of becoming consciously aware of our unconscious habits, limits and judgements. Shadow work asks us to explore what we might consider the ‘negative’ aspects of our psyche.

Beyond that, shadow work invites us to reclaim aspects of ourselves that we might consider negative but are actually gifts. This would include traits, skills and inclinations that we can develop to our favor, and help others with.

Shadow work invites us to see both the positive and negative aspects of ourselves as part of the whole. We all have a shadow self, and so rather than attempting to ignore this aspect of ourselves bringing it into focus.

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Twin Flame Or Unhealthy Bond?

It seems more and more people are talking about twin flames recently. Most of us have heard the term ‘soulmate’ before and probably have a rough idea of what it means, however twin flame leaves a little more to the imagination.

As I have been doing readings the topic of twin flames has come up time and time again, as it relates to relationships this is the area I’m most asked about.

There are many different definitions and perspectives on what exactly a twin flame is, and so it can be difficult to answer in a way that will be clear for everyone.

However in this article I want to go over what my perspective on twin flames is, and how they differ from the more common unhealthy bonds.

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5 Signs You Need Shadow Work

The shadow is the part of our psyche that contains all of our repressed and ignored emotions, habits, tendencies, desires and even gifts. This is an aspect of ourselves that we would rather pretend didn’t exist.

However if we ignore our shadow side completely we end up living lives rules by unconscious compulsions, never really making headway.

We all have a shadow or unconscious side, so we all have to do shadow work at some point. I would say go so far to say that shadow work is a crucial element to any spiritual practice.⠀
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Sometimes the shadow is more relevant in our lives, while other times our focus should be on the lighter aspects. There doesn’t have to be a constant focus on the dark or unconscious, instead it’s all about balance.
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However a big sign that you need shadow work right now is that specific lessons are repeating over and over, or your relationships are becoming cyclical. This is when the unconscious mind is ruling our lives, and we struggle to make healthy conscious decisions.⠀

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How To Get Through a Dark Night of the Soul

We all have to go through a phase in our lives where we are forced to confront all of our deepest darkest fears and doubts, so we can come out the other end with deeper clarity.

This is what a dark night of the soul entails during a spiritual awakening. It’s an unexpected shake up of everything we consider familiar and comfortable.

On the other side of a dark night, we are able to embody even greater amounts of light. We are able to solidify who we are, and what we are here to do.

In this post I want to cover what the dark night of the soul is, why it happens, and how to get through it in one piece.

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