How to Use The Law of Detachment

Do you ever notice that people who are not attached to material success often have it? That people who are not looking for love often find it? People who have a certain peace about them, always seem to navigate life smoothly?

This is the Law of Detachment: What we cling to and chase after is often repelled from us; we gain more by letting go than holding on.

Detachment isn’t the only thing that can get us to our goals, but it is an important part of it. Even when we are incredibly passionate about something, and skilled in a specific area, we have to detach a little to allow our results to grow.

On a basic level, we can only really control ourselves. In this post I want to go over what this Law is and how to put it into practice.

What is the Law of Detachment?

Before we proceed, I’d like to make a little disclaimer. When I talk about manifestation I’m not coming at it from the mindset of ‘positive thoughts equal positive outcomes always’.

The relationship between our energy and physical reality is not 1-1. So you can have a lot of peace internally, while still experiencing chaos externally. You can be a good person and have bad things happen to you.

However there is use to these concepts such as the Law of Attraction and detachment, if we put them in the right contexts.

The Law of Detachment is not an ‘official’ law as such, but a concept you can apply to your life. ⠀
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In my work I’ve notice that when you are manifesting there will always be some attachment to what you want, or rather, to the idea of what you want.⠀
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We are humans with a monkey mind, that is to expected to some extent. However to detach, is to consciously hand things over to something bigger and accept where your work is done.
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An analogy I like to use is of a artist drawing a picture. There will be conscious focus on what strokes to make, or materials to use, but to truly ‘create’ you have to let go and allow your subconscious mind to take the reigns.⠀
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You are simultaneously part of the process while taking yourself out of it, in order to allow your creative energy to shine through.⠀

Why needing nothing attracts everything

You’ve probably heard this saying ‘needing nothing attracts everything’ dozens of times. It can become a platitude but there is a LOT of truth to it!

There have been so many times in my life where I finally let go of someone, gotten over them…only to receive a text message from them the very next day! It’s scarily predictable how often this happens.

This is just how energy works. When we are not pushing our energy into someone else’s space, we become much more attractive to them. If we were previously attached, they can feel the pulling away, and naturally compensate for it.

I’ve also experienced my work going viral or receiving a bigger response than I expect, when I have been more focused on the process than the outcome. I’m sure you can relate in many different ways!

“Energy flows where attention goes”

This quote is very true but it goes deeper. There’s a part we forget. Wherever there is space, new things flow in.

Detachment is all about creating space. Between our actions and the outcome we want to experience. Between our thoughts. In our home environment.

If we are filled up with ideas and concepts, or our space is filled with clutter, it’s very difficult for new things to come in.

Another reason detachment works so well is because so often we are preoccupied with things that aren’t really for us.

We fixated on a material goal without considering how we actually want to feel day to day, we fixated on a person ignoring anyone else who comes our way.

The way that the Universe works, there isn’t just one path to success. The Universe can bring us to where we want to go in endless different ways, and it can even surprise us with an outcome we didn’t know we wanted but fits perfectly.

Attaching to one thing or outcome, doesn’t allow the Universe to work its magic in this way. We also restrict how free and flowing our energy is/can be, our perception shrinks and we don’t see all of the opportunities available to us.

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How to let go & manifest

Now that you are familiar with this concept, how can you actually put it into use. How do you actually let go?

The way that I approach this tends to be a little different to what I have seen.

In my experience we never entirely ‘let go’ of something. Sure, we can lessen the importance of something in our mind and find better places to focus, but that thing can remain in the subconscious.

This is not a bad thing in my view because surrender and acceptance are equally important qualities on the spiritual path, and life in general.

What we cannot let go of, we can learn to accept and release consistently, and it stop affecting us in the way it used to.

When manifesting I love to engage with my intentions over a longer period of time.

If I want to travel to a certain country but don’t have the resources, I will visualize this happening over the course of several months.

However, the letting go part comes in surrendering to the process.

Let go of how exactly you want something to come about – you might have to do this several times before you feel it works – but be highly engaged with the process of aligning your energy in the right way.

When we have a very solidified view of how something should come to be.

For example, wanting to manifest a partner in a specific environment. We might hinder ourselves in meeting someone in an environment we aren’t familiar with or haven’t yet been to.

You want to create space so that the Universe can come in and surprise you!

I like to say that the end goal of a manifestation is not actually the end goal.

Reaching a destination is not the thing you should be focused on. Instead, getting into the right energy, being the person who would have what you want or live the lifestyle you want is the center of manifestation – it is the end goal.

The person you become in being prepared for a blessing is even more important than receiving the blessing.

The best way to understand the Law of Detachment isn’t complete detachment all the time, but rather, learning when to engage and when to detach.

Feeling is the secret

The key to detachment is realizing feeling is the secret. I’m taking inspiration from Neville Goddard’s book of the same name for this subtitle.

What do I mean by feeling is the secret in this context?

Underneath every goal or desire we have is a base emotion. If we want to attract a million dollars, then the base emotion we want to achiever is safety, security, freedom etc.

If we want to be a successful creative, the base emotion we want to achieve is fulfilment, connection, security etc.

If you understand the base emotion you are trying to create, then you focus less on what the physical is doing or achieving a very specific external goal. It might still be important to you, but it isn’t taking up as much mind-space.

Here’s how you do that on a practical level. This is all about embodiment! So rather than having a goal floating around in the mind, you are trying to get your body on board.

If your goal is to become a creative with a supportive community, but your mind and body is closed off and full of tension – it’s very hard for your physical reality to mirror that.

Think of the daily routine you might live as a successful creative (or whatever lifestyle you have in mind) from the moment you wake up to the moment you fall asleep.

You’d wake up in a cheery mood, get to work enthusiastically because you know you are secure and safe, step out into the world with an open heart because even if a random person doesn’t like you, you know who does.

Look at your current day to day and ask how much of this you are already doing.

If you’re not waking up somewhat enthusiastically thinking about the day ahead, how can you? If you feel closed off or unworthy, how can you shift this? Even just a little bit.

Don’t expect yourself to embody a whole new personality over night, that isn’t really the goal here. But to identify the shift you want to make, because they’ll make you feel better day to day.

Sometimes it isn’t about getting anything at first, but about putting positive thoughts in your mind because you deserve to think them, or visualize an uplifted scenario because you deserve to fill your head with beautiful things.

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