Empaths

How To Thrive As An Empath

Reading what it’s like to be an empath can lead us to believe that being an empath is all about feeling drained, being constantly triggered and living according to the emotional whims of others.

While a lot of this can be true, there is also a flip side to being an empath that should be discussed just as much – how to thrive. Being an empath can either be extremely draining or extremely uplifting, it depends on how we manage and develop our sensitivity.

At a basic level sensitivity is not a bad thing, it means we are open to the great pleasures of life: love, friendships, and helping others. It also means we are open to the dark side of life: the pain, the deep lows, the emotional wounds of others.

By bringing consciousness to our sensitivity we can be open to both the light and dark without losing ourselves. We can tune into our own emotional needs and better meet them. We can avoid allowing our empathy to lead us into manipulation and abuse. This is what thriving as an empath looks like.

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How to Develop Your Clairsentient Abilities

Are you the type of person who can look at someone who is smiling, laughing and appearing happy to everyone else but instantly notice the sadness in their eyes?

Can you enter a room and feel the interactions that took place before you entered? Can you go to the grocery store and just feel what sort of day each person you pass has had? You may be a natural clairsentient!

Clairsentience is the physic sense of feeling translated as “clear-feeling”, also referred to as “clear-sensing”, it is the ability to feel beyond someone’s words and actions and see their true motivations. This is a psychic sense that goes beyond rational thought, physical senses and explanation.

Of course we all possess this type of sense to some extent whether we wish to use the label clairsentient or not, however for some people this is a large part of how they navigate the world. They pick up on emotions and energy with such shocking accuracy that even they become overwhelmed by it sometimes.

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The Empath Mirror Effect: Why Some People Avoid You

Living an an empath is a tricky thing to navigate; you may feel the emotions of others but are often left out in the cold or seen as an easy target. For empaths who are just coming to terms with their empathy these two situations will pop up constantly.

You may meet someone and they instantly take a disliking to you, for seemingly no reason. You may enter a relationship only to find your partner starts to lash out or manipulate you, getting angry when you do not respond the way they want.

This is what I like to refer to as the empath mirror effect. For a lot of people meeting an empath is incredibly unsettling; they do not know how to navigate a relationship with you just as you may find it difficult to navigate your own empathy.

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The Dark Side of Empaths

I am always talking about the upsides of being an empath and contradicting the idea that being an empath is inherently a curse, however to have a balanced discussion we also need to look at the dark side of empaths.

Being an empath can be both a blessing and a curse, it totally depends on the individual and the relationship they have with their sensitivity.

Growing up in this world as an empath can be extremely difficult, not only do we face being called “too sensitive” but we aren’t given the tools to work with that sensitivity.

Therefore the only other option is to become cold and callous. When you can feel, absorb and embody all of the emotions around you, hardheartedness can act as a defense mechanism. It can seem a logical choice to close yourself off from the world.

In this post we’re going to talk about that dark side and how to navigate it, because the chances are we have all been there at one point!

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Your Sensitivity Is a Gift

Being a highly sensitive person can often feel like a curse. I dealt with a lot of issues surrounding my heightened sensitivity in childhood and teenage years, it was only in adulthood when I began working with my sensitivity that I realize what a gift it was.

For highly sensitive people the world can feel like a cold and lonely place, when we see people who can navigate life without the same compassion, empathy and kindness it makes being sensitive seem useless.

However it is not our sensitivity that is the problem, it’s that we haven’t been given the correct tools to manage and work with it. Instead we are given two binary options: be emotionally reactive all the time, or be hardhearted.

The truth is, we can find a healthy balance in between these two extremes and find strength within our sensitivity. That is what I want to talk about today. Let’s get into it!

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10 Signs You Are an Empath

The term “empath” has exploded in popularity over the last few years, and we see more and more discussions about it both online and off.

There has always been terms for highly sensitive people and the understanding that some of us are more sensitive to certain stimulus than others, but what does it all mean?

For those who are just coming to grips with it all or need a refresher you might be wondering: What exactly is an empath? What does being an empath entail? Why is this important?

You may also be asking yourself, “Once I have pinpointed that I am an empath, what are the next steps I should take?” While there’s a lot of information about the signs that you are an empath, after that you’re left to your own devices. In this post I want to cover both aspects, so let’s get into it!

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