Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energy

In today’s post I wanted to talk about masculine and feminine energies.

I think this is such a crucial topic that really brings everything else we learn together, because whatever practice we do comes back to balancing these masculine and feminine sides to ourselves.

If you’ve spent any time in the spiritual community you’ve heard reference to masculine and feminine energies.

Usually this is in relation to the masculine and feminine energies we all have within us regardless of gender, but at times it appears to be a substitute for ‘man’ and ‘woman’.

In my own work balancing masculine and feminine energies I’ve seen that it’s both metaphorical and literal.

We have to get in tune with these energies in their wider forms and other times we have to look at traditional gender roles and how we relate to those.

In a metaphorical sense we are looking at the polarities of energy: intuition and logic, flow and form, light and shadow.

Doing & being

The easiest way to identify these energies within yourself and develop them, is to pay attention to the times where you have to just be and just do.

When you have to sit with yourself, notice the resistance you feel to just being.

When we have to be in doing mode, notice the procrastination or anxiety that arises.

In a very broad sense we can get an idea of how we are managing these two polarities within us.

We notice where we are avoiding either the feminine or masculine polarity, where it feels uncomfortable or new to us.

We need both approaches in life and so it is helpful to practice them regularly. Consciously set aside time to sit and be, notice when you are procrastinating and take action a little quicker than you are accustomed to.

Healing our masculine & feminine energies

How we manage the masculine and feminine energies also has a lot to do with how we relate to our parental figures, because this is one of the main ways we initially conceptualize these energies. 

Prompts: 

• The role I expected of my mother was
• The role I expected of my father was
• The example I received for masculinity was
• The example I received for femininity was
• I can forgive my mother for
• I can forgive my father for

We have an idea of what being masculine and feminine means in relation to male and female, as a result, what we expected of our parents or parental figures.

Where they did or didn’t meet those expectations can create an appreciation or aversion towards these aspects.