Sometimes things have to get chaotic before they get good. You have to lose that job, be released from that relationship, have your beliefs come under scrutiny for the growth to happen.
Dealing with one of these events is bad enough, but there are phases where seemingly everything crumbles at once.
In spiritual circles we call this the “Tower Moment” a phase on your path where everything that isn’t aligned has to fall away. This is sparked by an increase in awareness, that makes it so you can no longer put up with the things that do not make sense to your heart.
This can be one of the most chaotic and confusion phases on our journey, but also the one that brings us the most peace. Like ripping off a band-aid; because once everything that isn’t aligned is out of the way, we are met with our truest selves and can build uninhibited.
In this blog I want to talk about why these ‘Tower moments’ happen, how to navigate them…and why you might even come to enjoy or initiate them (sounds crazy I know).
What is a Tower Moment?
The Tower is a card in tarot that represents our stability coming undone. Everything we cling to for a false sense of security falls apart.
The Tower card often comes up to symbolize the loss of a long-term job, relationship, an overnight change in your home environment. While we may focus on or be most concerned with the physical changes, old ways of being are also rearranged.
A Tower moment brings attention to our attachments: identities, status symbols, relationships that don’t represent our potential, comfortable routines etc. and how easily these things can be taken from us.
A Tower moment is not to punish us but to align us with our highest good.
We’ll often have one major Tower moment and then several smaller ones throughout the course of our life. As with most things on the spiritual path, we sometimes have to come back a second time to truly integrated what we learned.
What Is The Universe Saying When Everything Goes Wrong?
Spiritual awakenings are most often initiated by two major things: an increasing awareness that the physical is not all there is, or a major life event that wakes us up. The death of a loved one, heartbreak, career instability, a nervous breakdown etc.
The biggest question we’ll have during these periods is ‘Why is this happening to me?’
The logical/ego mind can only grasp things on a very superficial and physical level – as a personal attack or failing. Whereas the spirit knows that every situations holds many layered meanings and solutions!
The Universe does not punish or even reward us (in my view), it simply guides us to the things that make the most sense for our evolution.
These Tower moments happen to shake us out of this narrow view of things and wake us up to the multi-dimensional nature of our being.
Whenever we work on our energy and clarify things we naturally move towards a new reality, and all creation comes with some form of ‘destruction’. At least it can look and feel that way from where you are standing.
So, when ‘everything goes wrong’, we’re actually being led to the ‘right’ things.
How to Navigate a Tower Moment
I hate how trite some of this may sound, even if through experience I have seen it to be true.
Navigating a Tower moment that completely destroys the old and puts you on a scary new path is not as simple as ‘being positive’. There’s a lot of shadow work required!
For a lot of us the shadow rules our life – in big and small ways.
We go down the path prescribed to us by our parents, friends, the media. We don’t set clear boundaries in order to please others. We ignore our intuition out of fear.
We move from programming rather than from our heart.
A spiritual awakening prompts us to reckon with all of this, no stone will be unturned if we continue to hold awareness. Every gift we have suppressed and left unexpressed will have to be brought to light, every unhelpful habit and inclination examined.
This requires a lot of faith, in our ability to confront all of this but also to persevere and create something positive out of it.
It requires a lot of gratitude, even when we don’t feel so thankful…or quite the opposite.
When I started on this path I naively thought everything would just get better and better. My life has improved immeasurably through a daily spiritual practices, but certainly not in a straight line.
You will be called to circle back time and time again; to expose the ego numerous times, so that it can be integrated and the relationship you have with it clarified.
I notice that in periods where I think I have it all and am somehow entitled to it all, when I think I can control every outcome, things are most likely to fall apart.
The Universe is consistently asking ‘What can you let go of?’
I think practices like prayer, meditation, grounding, reciting uplifting affirmations help immensely when we are experiencing a Tower moment.
However, what I have found working with clients, is that without the right mindset the Tower moment seems to stretch out for longer than is necessary.
We want practices that will get us out of the Tower moment quickly. I completely understand this, and you certainly shouldn’t judge the human part of you that simply craves peace.
However, we must be with the Tower moment and accept the transition it is bringing us through, in order to experience a complete breakthrough.
Your spirit is more than equipped to hold the experience in its entirety, lean in!
Use the practices mentioned, but make sure they are used to help you be with the experience rather than a tool to escape it. Prayer was extremely valuable when I was going through my Tower moment as it brings you into a state of surrender.
That is my first recommendation, then grounding. Be in the body as much as possible, take care of the body and ask what it needs as you move through this.
꩜ Don’t rush the process.
꩜ Take note of the main shadow/blockage being revealed.
꩜ Focus on just your next step, not your entire future.
If you’re currently in the middle of a Tower moment and looking for perspective, I offer Mini Clarity Readings (only available to blog readers). Short written readings to get to the root of what’s being revealed to you, with easy to apply action steps.
Tower Moments: Turning Chaos into Creation
The main lesson of the Tower Moment is transforming chaos into order.
And so, over the next few weeks & months start to look at the chaos occurring in the your life through a different lens.
When you face your next obstacle, detor or redirection, ask yourself ‘What is this teaching me?’
When you notice internal chaos, ask yourself ‘How can I accept this part of myself even more deeply?’
Cultivating inner peace on the spiritual path is not about getting rid of every obstacles or being aware all the time, but understanding your chaos better and putting it into the right context.
Most importantly, create more! Create more from the heart. Move from your joy rather than disappointment.
Don’t wait for heartbreak to go in a new direction or try something new, don’t wait for everything to fall apart before putting certain things into order.
So much of what I create is based upon a shadow I have integrated. A wound I look at, or a disappointment I experienced and going ‘How can this help others?’ or ‘How can this help me grow?’
Tower moments are meant to highlight your power. One of the reasons we allow our shadows (fears and patterns) rule our lives is because we are afraid of what might happen if we didn’t. If we couldn’t rely on predictability and familiarity.
You want to see this change as a gift, especially if you have been feeling stuck, because in the midst of chaos you get to make completely new choices.
Intentional Tower Moments
2025 felt like a self-induced Tower moment for me, which may sound crazy given all that I’ve talked about here! I said to my higher self ‘I am happy to see everything that doesn’t work fall away’
Why would anyone want to bring on a Tower moment, and what would the benefits of that be?
Tower moments tend to be so aggressive because they are spontaneous. They occur when we’ve been avoiding and ignoring important misalignments in our lives.
We’ve received intuitive insights, hunches and gut feelings pushing us in a new direction but have ignored them time and time again.
The Tower moment is essentially our intuition getting incredibly loud – if we don’t change our life through habit, the Universe will change our life through chaos.
With intention we can experience a ‘Gentle Tower Moment’. A period of time where we assess the direction of our lives and decide if it is lining up with our soul purpose. If it isn’t, we directly ask the Universe to release what is no longer serving us.
Sometimes this change is necessary even when things are going ‘good’ just not in a direction we know is right for us. This was the case for me. Everything was actually pretty good on the surface, nothing was ‘wrong’ but internally I felt things needed to be shifted.
I brought myself through an internal Tower moment, to let go of old beliefs so that I would have a clean slate to work from. Each week I would let go of more preconceptions, ideas and conclusions. Allowing myself to more fully be in the world.
These last few months have been great in the sense that I know everything I’m building is on an even more solid foundation. Externally nothing has changed, but internally there’s a lot less weight.
Signs You May Be in a Tower Moment
- Everything in your life has suddenly fallen apart
- You feel in-between realities
- You’re questioning beliefs you once relied on
- Your intuition is pushing you toward change but you don’t know what/how
If more than one of these fit, you’re probably experiencing a Tower moment now. If so I hope this guide helps.
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Hey there, I’m Ashley. I hope that by sharing my experiences with deepening my intuition, I can help you find that ‘spark’. That magic we can all experience when our energy is aligned and we feel deeply supported by the Universe.
this is exactly what is going on in my life .an old friend showed up in my life after 20 years and me moving to another town / state to get away from the crazy my town was going through . when i went back to his house it was like i was going back in time , they the people never changed . they are all stuck on stupid , i didnt realize how far i have come until then . i love my friend , i wanted him to come live with me here . i wanted to she his life change for the better but by doing that i almost got sucked back in . ive argued cried begged and cried more cause what am i doing begging for better treatment ( this happened over the weekend) what the hell am i doing . im better than that . i cant go back to my old ways . im so mad i said stuff i shouldnt . i told him in the beginning when i first saw him WOW YOUR EITHER A LESSON OR A BLESSING AND I BET YOUR ASS YOUR A LESSON !!! I KNEW IT and still it hurts . it hurts bad . i gave my energy away so many times in the past few months i feel so drained and sad . i need to shake this off , regroup . im all alone in this town so i have only me to help myself . so i best buckel up and ride it through. thank you your work and insight helps please keep it up .
with love and light , love janice wyatt