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What Are Energy Vampires & How To Deal With Them

Have you ever dealt with a person who sucks the life out of you? Who seems to make the air heavy around themselves? Who takes much more than they would ever give?

This is what we might call an ‘energy vampire’.

The term energy vampire is often thrown around, ans overused, but generally speaking describes someone who consciously or unconsciously drains other people of energy.

In today’s post I wanted to go over some of the ways to deal with energetic vampires in day to day life, but also shine some light on why people might become energy drainers. Much of the time, energetic vampires are a lot more disempowered than we think they are!

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Can Empaths Lose Their Sensitivity?

I’ve talked about empaths a lot on this blog, and I realize that one assumption people might have is that empaths are empathetic all of the time.

I think the label can sometimes get in the way of the experience or way of being that we are trying to portray with this word.

I think it’s important when we talk about empaths to know that we’re talking about a specific type of experience, a specific path one takes through their sensitivity. This is to better understand ourselves or make sense of our experiences, but these labels can become unhelpful.

Going back to the first point, it’s not the case that empaths are empathetic all of the time. When we use the term empath it is to describe someone who can/does take on other people’s emotions as if they were their own – like a sponge.

There can be a higher level of sensitivity present naturally, but this sensitivity is also influenced and amplified by our environments.

It’s very possible for empaths to lose their sensitivity or even become cold, because empaths just like everyone else, go through ups and downs. Empath is not a stagnant state, and many people outgrow or decide to drop that label eventually.

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The Body & Spirituality: How To Practice Spiritual Embodiment

The term spiritual embodiment doesn’t come with any obvious meaning, it can sound a bit wishy-washy, but in practice spiritual embodiment is one of the most important aspects of spiritual work. What is it and why is it important?

For many the term spiritual brings to mind images of those who are here on a physical level but somewhere else entirely on a mental and metaphysical level. It comes with the association of leaving the body in some way.

There are aspects of spirituality that bring us out of our physical surroundings, that bring us to different planes of existence, that are disembodied in some way, but that is not the whole picture.

Embodied spirituality is one where we regard the physical body with as much importance as the spirit – that the body also comes with a level of sacredness.

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Feeling Lost After a Spiritual Awakening? What To Do Next.

Spiritual awakening and spirituality in general are often seen through a rose-tinted lens: whether it’s the idea that all spiritual people are zen and peaceful at all times, or that spiritual awakening is always pleasant and easy.

In reality, spiritual awakening often beckons major life changes, everything you took for granted is flipped on its head. Going through a spiritual awakening can often leave you feeling more lost, confused and disconnected than before.

This is because we become more aware of the state of loss, confusions and disconnection we were in before. Spiritual practice amplifies the light but also amplifies the shadows, and so care is required.

In this post I want to give you some practical advice on how to reintegrate into society and feel grounded after a spiritual awakening. There isn’t one way to go about this of course, but this is what has worked for me.

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What Is the ‘Spiritual Ego’?

The ego is not something to be ashamed by but aware of. We all have an ego: the aspect of ourselves that deals with self-image, self-esteem and self-importance.

The ego deals with the ‘self’, all of the things we put after the statement ‘I am’.

It’s common to see the ego talked about with negative connotations, and we can see from the definition why this might be. We can over-identify with the ego and become unaware, arrogant and selfish.

However there is another side to the ego that isn’t talked about as much. The ego is an essential part of human life, it develops over the course of our childhood (and further into adulthood) as we figure out our place in the world.

The ego allows us to differentiate between ourselves and others – this can be a positive thing. Knowing who and what we are is how we navigate everyday life. Imagine not knowing what your name was, your nationality, your age, your values and morals. It would be impossible to get through the day.

With that being said, I want to explore the concept of the ‘spiritual ego’. This might sound like a contradiction in terms, and on some level it is, but this is where the ego takes our spiritual awareness, and uses it as just another way to put ourselves above others.

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Shadow Work & The ‘Healing Trap’

The concept of shadow work has become more widely known over the last few years – a term originally coined and popularized by psychiatrist Carl Jung. It is something I have incorporated into my work and find extremely useful.

At it’s core, shadow work is a process of becoming consciously aware of our unconscious habits, limits and judgements. Shadow work asks us to explore what we might consider the ‘negative’ aspects of our psyche.

Beyond that, shadow work invites us to reclaim aspects of ourselves that we might consider negative but are actually gifts. This would include traits, skills and inclinations that we can develop to our favor, and help others with.

Shadow work invites us to see both the positive and negative aspects of ourselves as part of the whole. We all have a shadow self, and so rather than attempting to ignore this aspect of ourselves bringing it into focus.

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